In 2003, the number of divorces granted in the UK increased by 3.7 per cent to 166,700, from 160,700 in 2002. This is the highest number of divorces since 1997, and the third successive annual increase. However it is still 7.4 per cent less than the peak of 180,000 in 1993! 69 per cent of divorces in 2003 were to couples where both parties were in their first marriage.
Over the last 10 years the average age at divorce in England and Wales has risen from 39 to 42 years for men, and from 36 to 40 years for women - partly reflecting the rise in age at marriage. In 2003, 69 per cent of divorces were granted to the wife in England and Wales. The most frequent fact on which divorce was granted to a woman was the unreasonable behaviour of her husband, while for a man it was separation for two years with consent. (National Office of Statistics) When children are involved settlements take longer.
Divorce typically gives women more disposable income than when married, however they experience stress and anxiety when it comes to rebuilding their life. The immediate post divorce stage is characterised by setting up a new home, purchasing a car and focusing on childcare. All of these are recognised in the field of psychology and psychiatry as being major stressful life events. The Holmes and Rahe lifestyle index often used by health professionals, counsellors and those working in the field of trauma, scores divorce, marital separation and readjustment as very high. Divorce comes after bereavement (the highest stressor) and is followed immediately by marital separation.
Something you should know:
Although there are many steps to rebuilding your life, it is important that you make sure you take this opportunity to turn your life into one that you love.